I've been cautious my entire life. I've been a planner. I've known what I wanted and had a plan on how to get it. Always. I didn't want to ever get distracted - if it wasn't in the plan, I'd pass on it.
Did I get what I wanted? Yes. But at the same time, by sticking to this path I created in my head, maybe I missed out on a lot of things too. Not that I regret my decisions at all, because I don't, they led me to who I am now.
After meeting people, loving more openly, and being more vulnerable, I started to change, and for the better. I started to see that I had been cautions all my life, and it was about time I started living. It was time that I started taking that leap and not fearing the fall.
Life is golden. It's joy and pain, both of which can teach me so much more about myself, others, and the world.I find just as much, if not more, happiness from the unplanned spontaneous random encounters in my life as completing my plans and accomplishing my goals. Goals are important and with goals you know the desired outcome, but sometimes, things just take you surprise and change your life for the better. Unplanned and raw emotions make you feel alive in ways that no plan ever could, and that's a part of life that I used to neglect, but now it's a part of life that I won't ever forget again.
Life unscripted isn't half bad. Own every second of your life and live it to the fullest. Embrace the good, the bad, the planned, and the unscripted. We've got this one life, so let's live it and make it beautiful .
All you need is one
20.7.13
Never underestimate the power of one - because a lot of the time, all you need is one. I thought I blogged about this before, but apparently I didn't (AWKWARD), so here it goes.
A lot of the time, we think we're small (and when you think about it in the sense of the universe, we kind of are). While we may be small, we have so much potential, both for ourselves and for others. There is a lot of power in each and every one of us. I have been lucky enough to have so many people who believed in me, pushed me to be a better version of myself, and were there to help me along the way when I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Sometimes you just need one person to think you are the bees knees; just one person to ignite the flame within. Sometimes, you just need one person to push you, change the game, flip the script, whatever you want to call it. One person, at the right time, in the right place, can help you realize your potential and inspire you to move forward, follow your dreams, grow, and become better than you were before.
While all you may need is one, that's just for a time; over the years you'll start to realize that you've been lucky enough to encounter multiple people who were game-changers for you. The best thing you can do is let them know how much they mean to you and how much their support has meant (because I think these people are often overlooked)
We need to realize that WE can be people of impact; that our actions and words can be the thing that helps motivate someone to believe in themselves or move towards change. With every conversation, every smile, every action, we all have the ability to be game-changers.
A lot of the time, we think we're small (and when you think about it in the sense of the universe, we kind of are). While we may be small, we have so much potential, both for ourselves and for others. There is a lot of power in each and every one of us. I have been lucky enough to have so many people who believed in me, pushed me to be a better version of myself, and were there to help me along the way when I couldn't see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Sometimes you just need one person to think you are the bees knees; just one person to ignite the flame within. Sometimes, you just need one person to push you, change the game, flip the script, whatever you want to call it. One person, at the right time, in the right place, can help you realize your potential and inspire you to move forward, follow your dreams, grow, and become better than you were before.
While all you may need is one, that's just for a time; over the years you'll start to realize that you've been lucky enough to encounter multiple people who were game-changers for you. The best thing you can do is let them know how much they mean to you and how much their support has meant (because I think these people are often overlooked)
We need to realize that WE can be people of impact; that our actions and words can be the thing that helps motivate someone to believe in themselves or move towards change. With every conversation, every smile, every action, we all have the ability to be game-changers.
The ideal doesn't exisit
3.7.13
To be honest, I've struggled (like many others) for a majority of my life with trying to be perfect, striving to be what I am "supposed to be" as told by my family, teachers, friends, community, media etc. It's horrible, and I won't claim to be cured of wanting to be perfect, but I'm realizing that this ideal that I (and so many others) strive towards, doesn't really exist.
There is NO way to please everyone around. My parents don't want the same things from me that my friends do, my friends don't want the same things as my professors, my professors don't want the same things the media expects of me, and most importantly, a lot of the time, I don't want what ANY of them want from me. So in a world where we we want to fit in and be accepted, how can we if there is so much noise surrounding who we are and the supposed ideal we're told to be?
It's taken me time to realize that the ideal isn't very realistic at all and it might not even exist. What matters most is my happiness, what matters most is pursuing my passions and doing something that I care about deeply. I can focus my energy and try to be a billion things that I'm not, or I can realize what I am and how to make that work for me.
I can spend all of my time trying to be thin, get 4.0's, get a high paying job, be the life of the party, read books, be good at math, have an attractive boyfriend, be trendy, etc. but what matters in the end is if I am happy. Selfish? Maybe, but I think that's what this time in my life is for.
I figure what does all of this matter if I'm not happy with who I am? It's SO, SO, hard to try to let go of what people think of you (after all, we all want to feel acceptance and to feel wanted) and I am no expert. I still care, but I'm trying to put myself first. I want to be happy, and there's no way that I can be if I'm too busy caring about how people think I should be. I can never be happy if I am constantly striving for something that is unattainable.
It's hard to grasp that because of my decisions, people may not like me, and it's even harder to accept people not liking me, but it's the only way I can make true progress in my life. I am proud of who I am and even more proud of the growth I have made to get here.
I'm finding that the more I let go of the idea of "perfection" the more happy I am with life and the better person I am become.
There is NO way to please everyone around. My parents don't want the same things from me that my friends do, my friends don't want the same things as my professors, my professors don't want the same things the media expects of me, and most importantly, a lot of the time, I don't want what ANY of them want from me. So in a world where we we want to fit in and be accepted, how can we if there is so much noise surrounding who we are and the supposed ideal we're told to be?
It's taken me time to realize that the ideal isn't very realistic at all and it might not even exist. What matters most is my happiness, what matters most is pursuing my passions and doing something that I care about deeply. I can focus my energy and try to be a billion things that I'm not, or I can realize what I am and how to make that work for me.
I can spend all of my time trying to be thin, get 4.0's, get a high paying job, be the life of the party, read books, be good at math, have an attractive boyfriend, be trendy, etc. but what matters in the end is if I am happy. Selfish? Maybe, but I think that's what this time in my life is for.
I figure what does all of this matter if I'm not happy with who I am? It's SO, SO, hard to try to let go of what people think of you (after all, we all want to feel acceptance and to feel wanted) and I am no expert. I still care, but I'm trying to put myself first. I want to be happy, and there's no way that I can be if I'm too busy caring about how people think I should be. I can never be happy if I am constantly striving for something that is unattainable.
It's hard to grasp that because of my decisions, people may not like me, and it's even harder to accept people not liking me, but it's the only way I can make true progress in my life. I am proud of who I am and even more proud of the growth I have made to get here.
I'm finding that the more I let go of the idea of "perfection" the more happy I am with life and the better person I am become.
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